Open Mike Night
A Therapist’s Blog on Thinking, Feeling, and Functioning Better
Welcome to Open Mike Night…
A blog about manhood, mental health, and personal growth.
A Note on Well-Being from Mike Garrison:
While I offer generalized information, insights, and experiences, remember that your journey is unique. These writings are not a substitute for personalized, professional guidance. If something resonates but raises concerns, please reach out to a qualified provider. Your mental, physical, and emotional health matter. Don’t wait to get the support you deserve.
Invest in yourself…you’re worth it!
Let’s dive into some timely topics…
Still Beating Yourself Up? The Psychology of Self-Forgiveness
Self-forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood (and resisted) concepts in mental health. Many people interpret it as excusing mistakes, avoiding accountability, or lowering moral standards. For men in particular, self-forgiveness can feel uncomfortable, even dangerous, as if releasing self-criticism means letting oneself off the hook. Philosophically and clinically, the opposite is true.
Self-Esteem in Men: Common Struggles, Hidden Signs, and What Actually Helps
You can have high confidence and still struggle with low or unstable self-esteem. Understanding this distinction is essential to addressing self-esteem issues in men.
A New Year Doesn’t Change You. Awareness Changes You.
A therapist’s reflection on the New Year, human behavior, and why meaningful personal growth begins with awareness, not resolutions.
Why Emotional Connection Comes Before Sexual Connection
Many men struggle to understand why emotional closeness matters so much to sexual connection. Learn how individual therapy can help you build deeper intimacy, trust, and desire in your relationship.
Men and Trauma: What It Looks Like, How It Hides, and Why Healing Matters
Many men carry hidden trauma without realizing it. Learn how trauma shows up in men’s lives, how it affects relationships and identity, and how therapy can help rebuild trust, strength, and stability.
Where Are You Still Acting Out Old Pain?
Explore how early emotional avoidance or neglect shapes adult behavior and how therapy can help men reclaim attention, purpose, and self-trust.
Why High Achieving Men Often Avoid Therapy
High achieving men are capable, driven, and successful, yet many quietly wrestle with stress, perfectionism, and burnout. Here is why therapy might be the missing link in their success story.
The Friendship Crisis for Men: How to Build Real Connections in Adulthood
Making friends as an adult man requires intentionality, courage, and persistence. It often involves awkward first steps and the vulnerability of reaching out. Yet the rewards are immense. Men who maintain strong friendships report higher levels of happiness, resilience in the face of stress, and greater life satisfaction overall. Here’s some ways to make it happen.
EMDR Therapy for Men: How It Works and Why It Matters
Originally developed to treat trauma, EMDR has since expanded into a wide range of mental health applications including anxiety, depression, performance issues, and stress management. For men in particular, who are often less likely to seek counseling and may find it difficult to express painful emotions, EMDR offers a unique and practical path to healing.
Therapy for Men: Start Thriving
For many men, therapy sounds like something you only do if you are falling apart. The truth is that while some men come to therapy because they feel stuck or life does not look the way they think it should, therapy is really about getting to know yourself and leveling up. Think of therapy less as being ‘fixing what’s wrong’ and more as adding new tools to your toolbox so you can perform better at work, in relationships, and in life.
Stop Talking in Circles: Try Directive Therapy to Level Up
Men are still told to ‘man up,’ but the old scripts don’t work. Discover why more men are turning to therapy - and why a more directive therapeutic approach may be the key for many.
Stuck in First Gear: Why So Many Young Men Feel Trapped (and What to Do About It)
Many young men feel stuck — between student debt, housing costs, and pressure to succeed. Here’s why and how therapy can help build direction.
How to Start the Mental Health Conversation (Without Making It Awkward)
If you’ve got a buddy, coworker, or family member who seems off, there are ways to bring it up without making it awkward. Here are four conversation starters, plus five things to be careful about, and perspective on why they all matter.
Mental Health Issues Men Can’t Stop Searching Online
Let’s face it—men aren’t exactly famous for pouring their hearts out with friends. Instead, a lot of us quietly type questions into Google or ChatGPT, hoping the internet gods can decode what’s going on in our heads.
Real Men Reflect: Why Journaling Isn’t Soft, It’s Smart
One of the best tools I use to get a grip on my feelings and grow emotionally is journaling. It is one of the most powerful ways to externalize your emotions, gain clarity, and ultimately level up your emotional intelligence. Here’s why and how I have made it part of my regular routine for decades.
The Doubt Within: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
That creeping sensation that you're a fraud about to be exposed? There's a name for it, and you're not alone in feeling it. Welcome to Imposter Syndrome—the psychological phenomenon that has accomplished professionals everywhere looking over their shoulders, waiting for the jig to be up.
Pause the Porn: Therapy for Unwanted Porn Use
Never before in the history of the world have we had a challenge quite like this: It’s never been easier for men to find porn. A few clicks, and it’s right there, waiting to offer that quick hit of excitement. What might start out as casual curiosity can quickly spiral into something you don’t want, leading to guilt, shame, and frustration.
8 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Anxiety
Anxiety isn’t just about feeling nervous or overthinking—it’s actually a full-body response that starts in your brain. Here’s how therapy can help.
New Year but No New You (Yet)?
As men we often approach New Year’s Resolutions like we're planning a military operation – all or nothing, full steam ahead, no room for error. Failure is not an option. Let's talk about why this matters for your mental health.
Brick by Brick: Six Quotes to Change Your Perspective
Shift your perspective, overcome fear, and stay motivated. Six curated quotes to help you gain insight on handling struggles and considering different paths forward. These words might just inspire you to think with a fresh perspective.